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"Alegrias" or Happiness

I love to dance. I started with ballet as a child, and in more recent years, I’ve explored ballroom dancing and belly dancing as well. For the last eight years or so, I’ve been immersed in the world of flamenco dance. I fell in love with Spanish guitar (particularly flamenco guitar) many years ago when I lived in Spain. To have the opportunity to learn flamenco in the city where I live has been a dream come true.

Our flamenco group, known as Sol y Sombra (Sun and Shadow), has waxed and waned in terms of faces and numbers over the years, but we’re all drawn together by our passion for the intense expression of movement, emotion and rhythm. Staccato footwork, arms that snake enchantingly upward, hands that suggestively caress the contours of the female body, long flowing ruffled skirts in myriad colours and patterns, and music that evokes the full range of human experience – anguish, ecstasy, lust, betrayal, joy, sorrow, loneliness and union.

We perform at different locations during the year. This past weekend, we danced as part of a Latinfest celebration at The Museum in downtown Kitchener. We did two shows and, while the faces in the crowd changed, one thing remained the same – the excitement in the faces of the women in the audience.

We danced on the floor right in front of where the chairs were set up, so we were close enough that we could have touched individuals in the front row. Sometimes when we perform, it’s on a stage and we’re more removed from the audience so it’s harder to see their expressions.

On Saturday, however, there was no denying the delight and pleasure in the faces of young and old alike. It made me realize why I enjoy performing so much. Every time we dance, I notice someone in the audience, usually a woman, who is sitting on the edge of her seat, oblivious to everyone else in the room, completely captivated by the sound, the movements, the life stories that are being embodied in front of her.

As the show progresses, I’ll notice that she’s sitting taller, her eyes are glowing, her face is flushed and she has a radiance, an energy, a presence that was not there when she first arrived. Flamenco’s message has touched her and, while that message is unique to each person, its essence is one of empowerment.

We’re often approached after a performance by these people, seeking to learn more, perhaps take classes, but mostly just to prolong that feeling of personal power, meaning and purpose.

Passion does that. It inspires you, and those around you, to become more than you ever thought you could be.


Thanks to Michelle Turner for the incredible photo!


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Have you ever struggled with money? I have. There have been times when I scraped by on limited savings when I wasn’t able to work because of health problems. I remember one period when my bank account was almost at zero and a friend offered me temporary work (at $10 per hour) in her office. It kept me going until I was able to find my next job. During those years, I noticed that almost all my conversations focused on money – making more, finding more, stretching it further, making it last longer. I told myself that my life would be so much easier if only I had more money. A loan, a job, anything would do!

It’s interesting to note that, no matter how much I talked about money, things didn’t seem to change.

I began to notice the words I was using in conversation.

“That’s so expensive. Who can afford that? I certainly can’t!” “I try so hard but I just can’t make ends meet.” “I can’t get ahead no matter what I do.” “There’s never enough.”

Looking back, I recognize a key fact. The more you reinforce the message that money is scarce, hard to find and things will never change, the more true it becomes. Your mind keeps looking for examples to support this line of thinking.

Remember, what you focus on, magnifies.

So by continually talking about what I couldn’t afford or how I never had enough, I kept having experiences that proved it to be true. Every time I missed out on something because I didn’t have the money, I’d think to myself, “See, it never works out for me. I never have enough and there’s nothing I can do to change it.”

I started to notice how often in the course of a day I’d say, “I can’t afford it.” Each time I said that I’d feel angry, disappointed, frustrated and empty. I tried changing this statement to, “That’s not how I choose to spend my money today.” The shift was surprising. It didn’t change how much money was in my pocket, but it made me feel like I was in charge again.

I felt empowered, not impoverished, and that was a good feeling!

The next step was to recognize that money is there to work with me as my partner, not my master. I’d been letting money control my life. Now that I was in charge again, I realized I could learn how to make the best use of the money available to me. By learning how to work effectively with what I had in any given moment, I became more comfortable with money and developed the skills needed to work with larger amounts down the road.

And that’s what we’ll look at in the next blog. Stay tuned!

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